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By suesmith, Nov 6 2019 11:17AM

Stress is complex and has many causes. Unlike a physical illness it isn’t obvious to other people that something is wrong. In many cases also it is not recognised by the sufferer that they have stress. Although not recognised as a clinical illness as such, it is recognised in law and by such organisations as ACAS and all companies should have a formal stress management policy.

Understanding the physical, mental and emotional symptoms of stress in yourself and being able to recognise it in others is important before resolution and healing can take place. In the work place it is important to create ‘safe’ spaces, giving staff time out, proper breaks rest areas and an opportunity to talk to confidants. Employers should provide all employees with copies of the company, ‘Stress Management Policy’, and provide adequate ‘sign -posting’ to professional services and support. Ideally the support should be external to the company as quite often employees feel it will be a ‘blot’ on their work record if they show signs of ‘weakness’ by saying they feel they cannot cope or feel stressed, so the ‘open door’ policy or in house H.R approach first may not always be a way of encouraging staff to talk or ‘open up’. Even offering stress awareness classes might not work as staff may not wish to attend simply because it might be seen as a sign of ‘weakness’ by colleagues or their manager/s. Especially in high pressure atmospheres such as a sales company. From my experience in the pharmaceutical industry, the work place stress was often created by management to help drive motivation, competitiveness and ambition among employees. That sort of stress can be good up to a point, but becomes counter productive when staff become ill. Usually stress is not the admitted ailment, often employees say they have some other illness instead such as food poisoning or migraine.


Physical illness, exams, relationship issues past trauma, debt and many other contributory factors can create ‘stress’. Managing stress in a negative way by smoking, using alcohol, gambling etc can actually create more stress or make it worse. The first step is always to recognise changes in yourself or another that seem to have a negative effect, then to find positive ways to manage the symptoms and root causes using positive methods, such as talking to a confidant, seeking counseling, or help from a therapist, taking more exercise, planning rest periods during the day or proper holiday breaks, managing lifestyle to accommodate change and if necessary taking medication from the doctor along side other talking therapies.


For more detailed information, a talk a training session or a personal consultation you can contact me at info@suesmithassociates.com



By suesmith, Oct 16 2019 10:57AM

12 o clock Saturday 7th December at my home in Stanley.


A Festive Get Together


This will be the final session for this year, and an informal get together with light Christmas Buffet,

followed by short update, and relaxation session.


Please book by return e mail or let me know before :-

2nd of December.


Address will be given when you book.


Donation on the day of around,

£2 per head towards costs of

refreshment and Christmas Buffet.


By suesmith, Oct 2 2019 09:29AM


By suesmith, Aug 14 2019 12:38PM

Tuesday 8th October 6pm- 8pm


Our next session



Purple Dragon


(Shop and Therapy Centre)


37 Front Street, Stanley


DH9 0JE (Near Pact House)



Book by return e mail, the link below, pop in to the shop,text or call me on


07725 814742. Friendly Small Group


Date - Tuesday 8th October 6pm to 8pm


Venue - The Purple Dragon


Cost just - £ 8 per head, includes refreshments


Every second or third Tuesday monthly


To book go to :- Booking


More info go to www.suesmithassociates.com


e mail me at info@suesmithassociates.com




By suesmith, Sep 10 2019 04:33AM

An average of 3000 people commit suicide each day. That’s one million people dying every year from a preventable cause. For each of these, more than 20 people may attempt to end their lives. Today is World Suicide Prevention Day.

Since 2003, the day has been observed annually on 10th September to promote worldwide action in the prevention of suicide.

We need to be able to talk openly and honestly about our feelings especially if feeling suicidal and this day gives us the opportunity some of us may need to do just that.

So please talk to somebody, preferably not on social media but face to face, and if somebody wants to talk to you remember to listen. Do not be judgemental when listening, show empathy with gentle questioning and ‘sign-post’ the person to a professional if possible. It is so easy sometimes to say, ‘You should talk to ….’, ‘You should do this, or you should do that’, or ‘If I were you I would do this or that’, or worse ‘Pull yourself together’, or ‘Just go and get smashed’, or go in to sign posting somebody too quickly, ‘Go and see somebody else’. Because if you tell somebody who has opened up to you to go elsewhere it is a type of rejection, you are saying that you cannot help them.

But taking time to listen is a great help, and they chose you remember so remember how important it is to just listen.

Far better to listen and try to understand, and ask the person’s permission before you give advice. Far better to say ‘How do you feel now you have talked about it?’ ‘Would you like my advice?’ Then you can sign post them to professionals such as the G.P, Samaritans, Help lines, or counselling services etc’ But first and foremost take time to listen as it takes a lot of courage for somebody to open up and start talking about their feelings, and if they have chosen you to confide in, then accept that and take that time to actively listen.

World Suicide Prevention Day is advocating people to ‘Take 40 Seconds’ to think about reaching out to somebody to talk about your problem.

A large contributor in the decision to take one’s life is the feeling that our problems are insurmountable. You may be afraid to talk about what's going on in your life or think that no one is listening or will not care. Sometimes what we need is re-education to cultivate the ability to listen to other people's problems, and let them be truly heard, or work on our own mind, so that we are better equipped to handle the issues that modern living presents to us.

On World Suicide Prevention Day, the World Health Organisation are launching a “40 seconds of action” campaign to raise awareness of the scale of suicide around the world and the role that each of us can play to help prevent it.

For more information go to the World Health Organisation Website. Take just 40 seconds today to learn more.


By suesmith, Aug 14 2019 12:38PM

Tuesday 10th September 6pm- 8pm

Our next session


Purple Dragon

(Shop and Therapy Centre)

37 Front Street, Stanley

DH9 0JE (Near Pact House)


Book by return e mail, the link below, pop in to the shop,text or call me on

07725 814742. Friendly Small Group

Date - Tuesday 10th September 6pm to 8pm

Venue - The Purple Dragon

Cost just - £ 8 per head, includes refreshments

Every second or third Tuesday monthly

To book go to :- Booking

More info go to www.suesmithassociates.com

e mail me at info@suesmithassociates.com