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By suesmith, Oct 16 2019 10:57AM

12 o clock Saturday 7th December at my home in Stanley.


A Festive Get Together


This will be the final session for this year, and an informal get together with light Christmas Buffet,

followed by short update, and relaxation session.


Please book by return e mail or let me know before :-

2nd of December.


Address will be given when you book.


Donation on the day of around,

£2 per head towards costs of

refreshment and Christmas Buffet.


By suesmith, Oct 2 2019 09:29AM


By suesmith, Aug 14 2019 12:38PM

Tuesday 8th October 6pm- 8pm


Our next session



Purple Dragon


(Shop and Therapy Centre)


37 Front Street, Stanley


DH9 0JE (Near Pact House)



Book by return e mail, the link below, pop in to the shop,text or call me on


07725 814742. Friendly Small Group


Date - Tuesday 8th October 6pm to 8pm


Venue - The Purple Dragon


Cost just - £ 8 per head, includes refreshments


Every second or third Tuesday monthly


To book go to :- Booking


More info go to www.suesmithassociates.com


e mail me at info@suesmithassociates.com




By suesmith, Sep 10 2019 04:33AM

An average of 3000 people commit suicide each day. That’s one million people dying every year from a preventable cause. For each of these, more than 20 people may attempt to end their lives. Today is World Suicide Prevention Day.

Since 2003, the day has been observed annually on 10th September to promote worldwide action in the prevention of suicide.

We need to be able to talk openly and honestly about our feelings especially if feeling suicidal and this day gives us the opportunity some of us may need to do just that.

So please talk to somebody, preferably not on social media but face to face, and if somebody wants to talk to you remember to listen. Do not be judgemental when listening, show empathy with gentle questioning and ‘sign-post’ the person to a professional if possible. It is so easy sometimes to say, ‘You should talk to ….’, ‘You should do this, or you should do that’, or ‘If I were you I would do this or that’, or worse ‘Pull yourself together’, or ‘Just go and get smashed’, or go in to sign posting somebody too quickly, ‘Go and see somebody else’. Because if you tell somebody who has opened up to you to go elsewhere it is a type of rejection, you are saying that you cannot help them.

But taking time to listen is a great help, and they chose you remember so remember how important it is to just listen.

Far better to listen and try to understand, and ask the person’s permission before you give advice. Far better to say ‘How do you feel now you have talked about it?’ ‘Would you like my advice?’ Then you can sign post them to professionals such as the G.P, Samaritans, Help lines, or counselling services etc’ But first and foremost take time to listen as it takes a lot of courage for somebody to open up and start talking about their feelings, and if they have chosen you to confide in, then accept that and take that time to actively listen.

World Suicide Prevention Day is advocating people to ‘Take 40 Seconds’ to think about reaching out to somebody to talk about your problem.

A large contributor in the decision to take one’s life is the feeling that our problems are insurmountable. You may be afraid to talk about what's going on in your life or think that no one is listening or will not care. Sometimes what we need is re-education to cultivate the ability to listen to other people's problems, and let them be truly heard, or work on our own mind, so that we are better equipped to handle the issues that modern living presents to us.

On World Suicide Prevention Day, the World Health Organisation are launching a “40 seconds of action” campaign to raise awareness of the scale of suicide around the world and the role that each of us can play to help prevent it.

For more information go to the World Health Organisation Website. Take just 40 seconds today to learn more.


By suesmith, Aug 14 2019 12:38PM

Tuesday 10th September 6pm- 8pm

Our next session


Purple Dragon

(Shop and Therapy Centre)

37 Front Street, Stanley

DH9 0JE (Near Pact House)


Book by return e mail, the link below, pop in to the shop,text or call me on

07725 814742. Friendly Small Group

Date - Tuesday 10th September 6pm to 8pm

Venue - The Purple Dragon

Cost just - £ 8 per head, includes refreshments

Every second or third Tuesday monthly

To book go to :- Booking

More info go to www.suesmithassociates.com

e mail me at info@suesmithassociates.com


By suesmith, Aug 9 2019 11:57AM

When we are anxious, or worried we actually have a FULL MIND of Negative thoughts. Our neurons are ‘firing off’ creating patterns in a crazy type of moving matrix.


It is rather like attempting to listen to calm relaxing music at a Glastonbury Music Festival with all the stages performing at the same time.

Mindfulness (Being in the Now, Focused, Attention to thoughts and feelings, being present, calm, caring, having kind thoughts, forgiving).


The opposite of Mindfulness in this context is:-


Scattered thinking, Not present, being judgmental, selfish or arrogant, trying to control events and people, None forgiving and noticing other peoples faults, Overthinking.


So if something happens that is not to your liking, it does not mean you have to keep thinking about it. Out thoughts and projections around the event ‘EMBED’ this into our thinking, and generates negative feelings such as fear, anger, anxiety, confusion, cloudy thinking, exhaustion and eventual depression.


We get ADDICTED to negative thoughts. (As connected to our amygdala our fear centre, so the ‘grooves, tracks or embedded thoughts are ‘deeper’ more entrenched) Aaaaaghh !

We have to FIGHT BACK!!!! and never give up on looking for the positives.


Regaining a none judgmental, kind, forgiving attitude , and simply observing from moment to moment takes practice and gives us emotional FREEDOM!


How do you know when you mind (Based on neg thinking patterns) is seeking to control you?


1) When you ignore natural instincts - Gut feelings

2) When you say NO but then end up saying yes

3) When you are constantly checking your phone and social media

4) When you are being judgmental or critical

5) When you think repetitive worrying thoughts

6) When you become aware that you are trying to control someone else

7) When you become aware of negative thoughts about yourself

8) When you notice you are being a perfectionist



Awareness is a skill that takes time to learn. Acceptance takes practice


If you are depressed you are living in the past

If you are Anxious you are living in the future

If you are at peace you are living in the present ‘Lao Tzu’


Happiness is a state of mind, not a set of circumstances. ‘Richard Carlson’